Seek wise friends. Without wise friends to support and guide us as a couple, I doubt we would ever have made it. Ask an older couple what they think. Be kind. Kindness is an especially attractive quality. We men need to be particularly careful to be kind. Husbands, love your wives. And they will love you right back. In that order. Then, and only then, will you get all you ever wanted. Related Posts. Marriage , Single Life , Research Brief.
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Whatsapp Twitter Facebook Linkedin. Sign Up. Edit Profile. Subscribe Now. Your Subscription Plan Cancel Subscription. Home India News Entertainment. HT Insight. My Account. Sign in. According to Cole, there are four behaviors that are super-destructive to relationships. If one or more is present in your relationship, you could be on the fast track to loveless-ness if you're not there already. Every time you criticize your partner — by attacking, blaming, and putting the fault on them by flinging negative statements like "You're always running late," or "You never do anything right" — you corrode your connection.
By being defensive and refusing to accept responsibility, or attacking in response to feedback from your partner, you chip away at the trust and goodwill in your marriage. If you have an attitude of contempt , and call your partner names or make stinging, sarcastic remarks, you imply that you're superior and your partner is defective. And every time you stonewall one another, or emotionally shut down instead of openly addressing the issues, you create more distance and dishonesty, rather than openness, communication, and love.
If any or all of these sounds familiar, schedule couples' therapy to discuss why you do these things — and how you can fix them. When you sit down to talk with your spouse about what's working and what isn't, do you hear crickets?
Or feel like nothing changes, no matter how vocal you are about your feelings? That's a problem, says Turndorf. If you're not happy with your husband, you might be falling into an emotional affair , making another male the priority in your life. And thanks to today's technology, it's easier than ever to get caught up. Wendy M. People are bolder when hiding behind a screen, and often click on send without thinking first.
When people have exciting news to share or even just need someone to talk to, they typically speed dial the person closest to them. If that used to be your spouse but is now someone else — whether that's a girlfriend or another man — it's a clear sign you're not in the happy marriage you used to be.
If you're turning to [someone else] first in good times and bad, then you're replacing your husband emotionally and avoiding addressing what isn't working with him," says Dr. Try putting your husband into your 1 spot again. If you're not getting the support you need — or you don't even want it in the first place — it might be time to sit down and have a serious discussion about your relationship. Naturally, these statistics will offer boundless hope to many young lovers approaching Valentine's Day.
They will surely feel more confident about taking the leap toward betrothal and having faith that any extreme words uttered might still have meaning in 10 years' time.
Oh, one other small detail. This research -- which looked at data from 10, parents -- was undertaken by the Marriage Foundation. This charitable organization "refutes and tackles the myths that persuade too many people that marriage is 'just a piece of paper' and advances the uncontroversial and positive case that the commitment inherent in getting married provides the most durable arrangement for couples and so also for their children.
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